How I see it right this minute. Hurry. It changes.

A couple of years, ago, I plopped a bowl of Spaghettios down in front of Kadison for lunch one day, and she didn't eat them. This is a newsflash item, in case you were wondering. My kid never met a bowl of Spaghettios she didn't like.
This day, however, she didn't even pick up her spoon. Didn't touch them. Just stared.
After getting drinks, or whatever mom-like thing I was doing, I sat down with her, and noticing her odd behavior, I said , "Kadi, why aren't you eating?"
She immediately responded, "The voice in the Spaghettios says, 'Don't even think about it.'"
Um...okay...?
I responded with my typical compassion. "Fine, then that leaves more for me." I scooted her bowl over to myself and stuffed a heaping spoonful into my mouth.
It was the most rotten, rancid, disgusting, toxic thing I have ever had the misfortune of experiencing.
I have no idea how Spaghettios go bad. But, I will never forget what Spaghettios-gone-bad tastes like! I never spit anything out so undignified-ly fast in my LIFE!
My guru-child found this highly amusing. "Told ya. You need to listen better, mom."
I thought of this story today when a friend sent me a message saying that it 'hurts her spirit' to see me post things about my 'inner voice' or 'the universe' when I must really mean 'God', or, better yet, 'Jesus'.
I thanked her for her comment, and told her she'd inspired my next blog!

Here's the thing.:
Call it God if you want to. Call it Jesus, Mohammed, Allah, Buddha, or Fannie May. Call it The Universe. Intuition. Higher Self. The Tao of Winnie the Pooh. Inner Voice. Your dead Uncle Filmore.

The Voice in the Spaghettios does not care.

It is only Pure Love.

It's really just that simple.

Maybe I can't possibly be cuter?

Anyone who wears denim knows that there is a mostly unexplainable fine line between a perfect find, and perfectly WRONG. I don't know what it is, but we all know right and wrong when we see it, where our denimwear is concerned.
Well, today I found THE perfect denim jacket at Salvation Army. It made me look much cuter than nature intended. I giggled for several minutes at my cute self in the mirror. The cost? $6.50.
Then, I found brand new green jeweled sandals that made me gasp, and fit like they were made for my feet. $2.00.
When I giddily got them, along with my purchases for Pete and Kadison, to the check-out line, I knew immediately and unquestionably that I was meant to put them on the return rack and let someone else be delighted with them.

And I did.
I'm not saying I'm not still thinking about them. I'm devoting a damn BLOG to them!
But, I know they weren't meant to be mine.
And I don't know why.
I just know that my inner voice told me very clearly that these things were meant to bless someone else.

Don't get me wrong. I am fully aware that I am NOT that unselfish! I deserve no kudos for my self-restraint, my selflessness, my intuitive giving.

Pul Eeez.
Try to take my mint Oreos, beotch.

I just know that the things I've been working on learning are creating changes in my universe that I cannot deny.
I do not understand how my thrift-shop AHA moment has anything to do with anything. But I know that it happened, that I am listening, and that I am living in profound gratitude.

And whatever chick is going to be wearing my jacket and shoes must need more help in the cute department than I do.
I'm just sayin'.

I could fill several blogs with the interesting things I've been learning lately, but I know they are meant mostly for me, and anyone else would be too bored to read it all.

But, I don't think it's just happenening to me! Anyone else having growing bliss or growing pains lately? Tell me stuff, please! I'm a SPONGE! :)

Flyin' the shutthehellup flag.

When Kadison was a toddler, just learning to identify and name shapes, 'square' came out 'queer'. And, she had difficulty distinguishing a 'queer' from a rectangle. I almost ran the car off the road the day she saw a flag and said, "Wook, Mama! Queer fag!"
I kept that story alive for her, wisely or not. Being a budding free-thinking rational mind, she now says this with great irony, and especially loves being able to say it when she sees a rainbow flag. She got her own pride flag out of her closet today and said it; "Wook, Mama! Queer fag!" just out of habit. Kind of an insider thing between us, I suppose.
Her two visiting friends looked at each other in horror, her benevolent intent having not quite translated. "Hey, that's mean! We have a cousin who is a lesbian, and we don't like it when people call gay people names!"
Deep breath. A lot of protesting and embarrassed explanations and backtracking from Kadison.
And, a lot of thinking by her mom.
I'm not going to ask my daughter to stop saying 'queer fag'. We get the joke. We're in on it. We stand firmly on the side of love. Having no question about it, we have lost our sensitivity to certain aspects of the silliness of making it an issue.
But, here's what I have to get into my head:
If I'm allowed to use words for my gay and lesbian friends that would be unkind in other contexts, and I'm allowed to call my girlfriends 'bitches' because I'm one, too, and I'm allowed to lovingly call someone a fat-ass because a lifetime of weight struggle has desensitized me to the word...then...
I can NOT EVER roll my eyes or shake my head, or in any other way pass judgement on African-Americans who call each other 'nigga'.
I don't have to like it.
I just have to shut my fat-ass bitch fag-hag fomo self up and deal with it.